Essence Atkins is a take action woman. She says what she means and mean what she says. This week she took time out of her busy schedule  to talk about find her husband, finding him and married  life.

E8: You met your husband on That had to be interesting.

Essence Atkins: I put myself in the frame of mind where I wasn’t going to waste any more time. I met my husband at 36; a lot of people have questioned it like, “she’s so desperate.” I didn’t want to waste any more time. After 35, I felt like I’d been in these relationships, some were great, some weren’t so great, but they weren’t right partnerships. So I did this inventory, I’m not going to just settle for anyone, and at this point I don’t have anymore time to waste if I wanted to have children.

E8: Was it just part of your self evaluation or how did you come to know?

Essence Atkins: I knew I only wanted to do it once. My husband’s parents have been married a long time.  I wanted a life partner. In order to do that you have to really be realistic about what it you want. I knew I didn’t want someone who smoked.  I didn’t want someone who was out drinking all the time. It was a very calculated move. I was serious about it. My husband and I are down for it. We are in it. The long haul and everything.

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E8 How did you both come to approach marriage?

Essence Atkins: When you have certain things understood than you work at it. Divorce is not on the table. Leaving is not on the table. When you live with someone there is always an “option.” You can pick up and leave. When you are married you work at it. You face whatever it is down.

What’s your best professional and or life advice?

Essence Atkins: Get out of your own way!  (Laughs) There are many new fresh avenues open to actors now. If  you construct in your mind that you will be successful, than you will be successful.  You can be . That’s all you will be. You  have to set the time to to set the path.

What wise words. If we all set the time to set the path, we would all be successful.

Her latest movie, A Haunted House, sends up the Paranormal Activity franchise and creates a comedic caricature of the scariest flicks of our generation. The film, being released today (01/11/2013), She will appear in  upcoming movie  “Act Like You love Me”  and is a regular on Mr Box office.

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