Teenagers are a breed of their own.
Sometimes teenagers are exploring and trying to find out where they fit in. And sometimes this means sacrificing their own morals for the sake of having friends. I have taught teens for over 20 years now. I can tell you first hand that banning them , or blocking them will not help. They will just find a way around you.
Cleverly keep your child away from the influence. As parents, we have the control ultimately but I would expose my child to other kids/activities. Be very pro active in your child’s life. Try to come up with activities that would steer the child away from certain people. Eventually, your child will see they can meet other people who have a better interest in them.
There are many reasons why your child changes their social circle. One reason that parents can’t separate their child from a bad friend is that the friend often has a stronger relationship. When a child is young, his parents are the major influence in his life. As children enter adolescence a change occurs. A natural part of growing up is breaking away from parents and making bonds with peers. This is normal. If the parent child bond is healthy, children will eventually renew their ties with their parents. This happens in the late teens or early twenties.
# 1 Do Not Attack Your Child’s Friends. This is sure fire gas on the flame. If you make a personal attack on your child’s friend that is exactly what you are going to get, a sworn enemy. This enemy will now be out to get you and he very likely have more influence on your child than you. It will not help to tell your child not to tell this friend. If you trash your child’s friend, this person will know about it minutes to hours after the words leave your mouth. You will have made an enemy for life, at a time when you need every ally that you can get.
#2Get to Know Your Child’s Friends This does not mean become your child’s friend. This means get to know the friends. If you know what, who and why you have a better handle on what goes on.You may find out that the children with whom your child associates are really not as bad as your initial impression. The teen years are hard on everyone. All children have difficulty. It is very possible you might find that your child’s friends are basically good kids who are going through tough times.
#3 Stay on top of social media use. Many schools have cyber bullying rules. Most often teens areaffected by something that someone posts. If it makes you feel better. Outlaw and delete it.
Most of all keep the line of communication open. The more you talk, the more your values are articulated.
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