While watching the new TV show “Dating In the Dark” I came to realize that it could possibly cost you a date with someone that you really liked and were compatible with on many levels. When did proclaiming to be a follower become a liability? The premise of the show is to take three females and three males and have them interact with each other in room. They have dinners, question and answer sessions and are assigned “get to know you sessions” to speak with each other. The only catch was that they had to do all this in the pitch dark. It is an exercise in experimenting how we judge possible dates and mates.
A recent episode had a young African American female who was smart, professionally successful, attractive, knowledgeable, never married, childless, active Christian. She was a real catch. She had a wonderful time with the young man she was paired with. They discussed everything. The young man seemed generally interested in her. He went back to his housemates and discussed how connected he was with her. She spent time telling her housemates how great he was. The end of the show has the great reveal in which they each go into separate rooms that have two way mirrors. The lights go on in each room of the participant for a brief time. It allows them to each view each other. When the lights showed her side of the wall he was shocked by the fact that she was an African American. It was interesting to see him go back and discuss with his housemates the fact that while he thought she was pretty, he was no longer sure. She on the other hand, went back and raved that he was everything that she anticipated and more. The end of the show gives the participants choices to either walk out on a balcony or to walk out the front door.
She walked out on to the balcony awaiting his arrival. The camera cut to the confessional where he rationalized that he could not live up to her “Faith” demands therefore; it was not going to be a good match. He chose to walk out the front door.
It left me with a really puzzling question. Do we date in the dark? Is that why a good majority of us are still single? We “settle away” the Truth in us. Do we just make an excuse and walk away from what we know. The whole time he was in the dark and no one else knew he was content to have a great time. When it came time to date in the light he declined because it was too hard. Is this how we treat Jesus in our dating life? Is it really too hard? How do we respond when the lights are turned on?