As babies, we are completely open with our emotions. We cry, laugh, or smile freely. So, think back to when and why you changed. With time, due diligence, and patience, you can slowly learn how to let your guard down.
Letting your guard down doesn’t mean you open yourself up to be stepped on by everyone. If you’ve experienced an excessive amount of hurt in your adult life, it’s possible that you haven’t set appropriate boundaries for yourself. The great thing about this is that you can change it.
Decide for yourself what you will and won’t accept in your life. What is taking it too far for you? What types of behavior or people just don’t fit into your life plan? That is your boundary. Set it and stick to it. You don’t need to continue accepting hurts, particularly repeated hurt from the same people.
Instead of remaining emotionally unavailable to the world, establish your boundaries and use them to define the who, when, where, what, and how of your life. Nobody will run you into the ground because, even though you’ve let your guard down, you’ll stand up for yourself, refusing to have your boundaries crossed.