There is really nothing planned for us this weekend which makes it even more special. No dance class. No football. No swim meets. No basketball games. We can just sit around and enjoy one another.
Oh boy, enjoy one another. What happens if I just don’t like them today? What happens if they make me angry? What happens if they decide to go crazy and mess up my perfectly perfect weekend? What happens if I really don’t want to be around them anymore? Eight people in one house are a lot of people. And, then that spouse of mine can really get on my nerves. What happens then?
Of course, God made provisions for just that scenario. In fact, He laid out in His word exactly what He wants me to remember about marriage. He explained it so I wouldn’t get myself into negative space in my marriage and dwell there. God doesn’t want me to spend all of my time in the negative spaces of my life. He wants me to realize that everything He created is good.
For instance, He said everything He made was good before He created Adam. After creating Adam, God says in Genesis 2:18 “…It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.” God knew that there would be times in this walk of life that would be lonely. A cheerleader might be needed on the side to cheer the walker. Or, a hug might be needed to comfort the hurt. So, He gave Adam an unmet need that could only be filled by Eve. Did you get that God created a need in Adam that ONLY Eve could fill.
So what if Eve was made to fill a need in Adam. What does that mean for me? Well, it means that I am very important to my husband and him to me. I, Sharnell Blevins, is the only person who ca fulfill my husband’s unmet need. He needs me y’all even if sometimes he doesn’t think so. And, as I so often forget, my husband fulfills my unmet need. I need him desperately all of the time even those times when I am pigheaded and think I can do this walk on my own. That’s a powerful revelation that I am needed!
But, many times I don’t revel in this power that God has given me. Why? Because I don’t have the fellowship that Adam had with God before the fall. I don’t live in a perfect environment; having the Garden of Eden to feed myself, clean water to drink, no need for shelter, no need for clothes to wear – hey, let’s go naked, baby that would be so cool, especially during these hot flashes, but I now digress. Adam had no sin in his life to mess up his relationship with God. So, he was able to hear God and trust God immediately all the time.
After God showed Adam this major need in his life. He did what God always does; He did the miraculous and fulfilled Adam’s need. Genesis 2: 21-22t says “so the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh at that place. And God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.”
Not only did God make Eve from a rib but He presented her to Adam. Eve did not have to go out and search for a good man. She did not have to put on revealing, tight, or see-through clothes to entice a man. She did not have to have sex with the man to get him. She was presented to her husband by God. God revealed to both Adam and Eve who their spouses were.
What is even more astonishing is that Adam accepted Eve immediately as his wife. He knew that God’s gift was perfect for him. He knew that everything that God gives is perfect. God would not give anything that would harm. Everything God had given Adam had been perfect so why would Adam doubt that this gift would be any different.
How well do we accept God’s gift of our mate? This acceptance is depended upon our concept of God. Do we know God? Ok, we know God but do we know God as the perfect gift giver like Adam? Do we even allow God to give us gifts? Or, do we refuse the gifts He wants to give because we think they are not good enough? Do we want and expect God to be in control of our lives, our destinies? Do we even trust the God of creation?
Accepting God’s gift is an act of our will. God will never force us to accept the blessings and gifts He gives. He always leaves that up to us. He wants us to realize He loves us that much that He is willing to allow us to reject Him and His blessings. Even though every gift and blessing God gives are divinely designed for us. James 1:17 tells us that “every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”
Our spouse’s weaknesses are gifts to us from God. They are blessings intended to turn us toward Christ and trust Him. All of the crazy stuff that your spouse and family do is there to remind you that you are needed by them. They are not there to harm or hurt you. They are there to strengthen your walk with Christ. We are to accept their flaws in a climate of love so that our spouse will turn and lean on Christ to strengthen them too!
When we reject our spouse as a blessing and gift to us, we are telling God that we don’t want Christ to lead our lives and the provisions He has for us. Also, we are showing the world that we believe that God’s character is not pure and perfect. And, the whopper is that we are being disobedient and unbelieving towards God. And, all of that makes us fail to fulfill the plan and purpose God’s has for our marriage. God just wants us to have faith and trust in His character and integrity.
Because I want to have faith and trust in God’s character and integrity, I will stop grumbling because the house is not as clean and orderly as I would like it; screaming because my authority has been questioned; and stomping around the house because I feel unloved, I am going to sit back, relax, and enjoy the gifts and blessings God has bestowed upon me through my husband and family. Guess what, I know that whatever mood I am in that there is no other place I want to be but with my family. Lying right here on the couch next to my honey as we watch our six kids put on a talent show which is funny to no end. So, of course, all I can say is THANK GOD ITS FRIDAY!