I will be the first to admit, I had no desire to see Tyler Perry’s rendition of Ntozake Shange’s play “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf.”
For me, the title of the play was enough to deter my desire. This was definitely not a topic that I wanted to deal with as a source of entertainment. But for whatever reason, something kept pulling me to see this movie and I can honestly say I was not prepared for the intensity and grittiness that the movie contained.
However painful to watch, For Colored Girls was a harsh reality check of what some people are enduring in life and in their relationships. It really put a face to the stories that we hear from co-workers, relatives and even friends. Although the movie is entitled For Colored Girls, I really wish that Tyler Perry would have used an array of ethnicities and cultures because the subject matter is not only experienced by women of color. I understand why he didn’t in an effort to stay true to the material, but this is a movie that reaches far beyond color lines. There is a woman in every culture enduring what these women endured and even more. I believe this is a must see movie; especially for men in an effort to really understand what some women have endured and for women in an effort to have a better understanding of the pain of our fellow sisters.
I am so glad that the overwhelming theme of choices and their consequences was highlighted. The fact that these were all “CHOICES” that these women made; be it good, bad or indifferent; be it the action warranted or didn’t warrant the given response, it still all boiled down to choices. It was a very harsh reminder that our choices can sometimes have very cruel consequences. I hope that this movie will cause a dialog between women as well as men and women in their relationships. After viewing For Colored Girls, I hope that women will begin to re-evaluate their decisions. It took me several days after the movie to determine if I even liked it or not. I was so consumed with the ugly sound of truth from the movie ringing in my head, I could not help but wonder if I could have been or had been one of those women but with different results.
Just by reviewing the scenarios, I wondered for instance if I had been:
- Too trusting
- Ignoring the truth that I see before me
- Too optimistic for change to occur
- Wanting love so badly that I avoided the pain of loneliness by convincing myself to stay.
We have all made mistakes in the name of love or companionship. Any of us could have been one or all of these women. It really just boils down to whether we chose to be or not.
If we learn nothing else from this movie, let’s learn to make the RIGHT choices to achieve the results we desire. You only have one life. Live it to the fullest and enjoy every moment. But choose wisely in doing so. And most of all, LOVE yourself to the fullest before you try to love someone else. Always be true to you!
Written with much love,
Written by: Judi Mason for Elev8.com
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