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Recap:

When tragedy strikes a Louisiana congregation, Bishop Noel springs into action to try to save the church. Dominique considers the high road as she deliberates taking drastic measures to improve her marriage and restore old friendships. Dominique sits  down with Christy and  they  hash things out. Pastor Jay gave Justin a haircut and took him to rehab.

Lesson

When it comes to our physical and mental health, friendship may truly be the best medicine. The closer we get to someone, the more invested we become in their emotions and behaviors. We are far more likely to be reactive to our best of friends. When they aren’t feeling or acting quite themselves, they can incite feelings of frustration, judgment, competitiveness, or hurt in us. So how can you avoid a  falling out with someone you’ve long trusted and cared for? You can start by accepting the fact that you can only change yourself. Almost always, fixing a friendship is a matter of fixing yourself. Ask yourself what kind of friend you want to be. Then follow these  two tips for keeping your friendships strong throughout the years.

Be Honest Relationships built on false build-ups or phony facades are only as good as their foundation. Superficial relationships often fizzle over time. To achieve a solid friendship, you have to be honest with each other. Being able to offer and receive feedback from someone you trust is a gift that can easily be overlooked. Setting aside your ego and being willing to let someone know you and ask questions of you is invaluable. Friends are likely to ask the tough questions like, “Why do you think you’re attracted to that person?” or “Do you think you might be feeling jealous or hurt in this situation?” Having a friend who can give it to you straight will help you know yourself better. Being able to reciprocate further challenges you to live with honesty, directness, and integrity. There is no way to feel more connected to someone than to open yourself up to them. Dominique and Christy ha to sit down and talk.

Don’t Make Assumptions  – In any relationship, we can start to impose certain expectations on our friends that set us up to feel hurt or disappointed. Don’t be quick to pick apart your friends. Accept that they are human and that they will make mistakes. We may show our friendship in one way, through affection, favors, or gifts, but we shouldn’t necessarily expect the same from them. Don’t assume what your friends are thinking; check it out instead. Accept that you could be wrong about their viewpoint. Jay and Deitrick needed to clear the air.

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Don’t miss Pastor Jay discussing his experience with  Justin below.

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