E8: You met your husband on match.com. That had to be interesting.
Essence Atkins: I put myself in the frame of mind where I wasn’t going to waste any more time. I met my husband at 36; a lot of people have questioned it like, “she’s so desperate.” I didn’t want to waste any more time. After 35, I felt like I’d been in these relationships, some were great, some weren’t so great, but they weren’t right partnerships. So I did this inventory, I’m not going to just settle for anyone, and at this point I don’t have anymore time to waste if I wanted to have children.
E8: Was it just part of your self evaluation or how did you come to know?
Essence Atkins: I knew I only wanted to do it once. My husband’s parents have been married a long time. I wanted a life partner. In order to do that you have to really be realistic about what it you want. I knew I didn’t want someone who smoked. I didn’t want someone who was out drinking all the time. It was a very calculated move. I was serious about it. My husband and I are down for it. We are in it. The long haul and everything.
E8 How did you both come to approach marriage?