I’ve played on both sides of the fence. I’ve been the side chick and am currently
the main the only chick. I am very aware of the expectations and behaviors associated with the roles… the rules if you will. When I watched VH1 reality show “Love & Hip Hop,” characters Emily B., Mimi Faust and Joseline Hernandez stood out to me because like I’ve mentioned, I’ve been there. How does one go from mistress to main? Well, that’s another story, but I will say, it was not without strife. A couple of years ago I was Joseline Hernandez. I just wanted my Stebbie no matter who it hurt and what it cost. My only concern was having him in my life, for a minute, an hour, a lustful night with his cellphone powered off… Then, the tables turned and the position I desperately craved became mine.
Talking like this, reminds me of the degradation women allow ourselves to endure, but for the sake of this story, it is what it is. Moving on.
But, happiness would only be short lived because as they say, “What goes around, comes around,” and the same pain I once inflicted upon a girlfriend or two happened to me. And the only thing that probably hurts more than being cheated on, is unrequited love. But in essence, a main chick becomes a side chick when a man cheats. No woman is a winner in that situation. But, it did teach me a valuable lesson about life. From all my puddles of tears, I gathered and promised myself to never (voluntarily) be a side-chick again.
If every woman took responsibility for herself, forget about the man for a moment, and vowed to not sleep with or talk to a man in a relationship, I think (and I am entitled to my opinion) the world of dating would be a better place!
This all leads me to “The Real Mistresses Of Atlanta,” a production by Memphitz that may be making its way to our television screens sooner than later. A pilot trailer hit the Internet earlier this year and I want to be clear about this: I do not agree with glorifying any side chick, especially the kind of women that aren’t lead by love, but just don’t care! Point blank, no matter which way it is put, the show makes women look like heartless, materialistic beings with no remorse for their fellow man. At least that’s how I feel about it…
During my recent interview with the record exec I just had to ask about it and how an idea for such a controversial series even came into existence.
HB: I want touch on “The Real Mistresses Of Atlanta.” Because I hear that you are behind this and I watched the trailer and I am just like, ‘I don’t know what to expect.’
Memphitz: Okay. What exactly do you wanna know? My thought process behind it?
HB: Yes. I need to know your thought process and where that show is going.
Memphitz: Okay. Well, it actually came from, I have to involve my wife in this because she loves her shows, her reality shows, her guilty pleasures. When I’m talking to her during those shows, she always shushing me. So I’m like, ‘You know what? I’m gonna give you something to shush about!’ I was like, ‘Let me think of something.’ I went away for a while, I came back and I was like, ‘These shows , really? And I’m looking at ‘em and I’m researching and I’m watching ‘em with my wife and I’m starting to learn what’s actually captivating these women to where these ratings are so crazy. I’m like, you know what?’