Dealing with diabetes puts a lot of attention on blood glucose monitoring and insulin and medications—and those are important, of course. But there is an emotional side to diabetes that should be addressed, too.
Diabetes and the Disruption of Daily Life
- Diabetes interrupts your workday when you have to check your blood glucose.
- Diabetes means you can’t just grab food whenever you want—you have to plan for it.
- Diabetes prolongs getting ready in the morning as you wash and inspect your feet.
- Diabetes spends your money.
- Diabetes frustrates you when your taste buds cry out for a pastry instead of an apple.
- Diabetes makes you worry about your future. All of the time, effort, money, and stress interrupts your emotional stability and introduces emotional complications—and it’s okay to be frustrated or overwhelmed or scared.
Diabetes and “Being in Control”
Let’s face it: most of us like being in control, and we don’t like feeling that anything is out of our control. When it comes to diabetes, you can feel simultaneously in control and out of control.
Out of control: Because of how diabetes affects your body, it is possible to feel that nothing is in your control anymore. You can’t eat what you want when you want. You have to take medications or give yourself injections. You can start, perhaps, to feel that your body isn’t your own anymore.
How to counteract that “out of control” feeling: Taking a step back and an objective look at the situation may help. You can say to yourself, “Yes, diabetes makes me do these things, but diabetes does not run my life.” A mantra along those lines—repeated at moments when you’re feeling particularly out of control—can help.
Also, you can do a mental mind shift: all these steps you’re taking to manage your diabetes are actually proactive, healthy steps. You are taking control of your condition and life as you learn how to thrive with diabetes.
In control: Well, one of the main things your doctor checks on when you have appointments is your blood glucose control—so yes, control is a big deal in diabetes. However, it’s possible to become too focused on (and therefore stressed about) that level of control. You can start to feel if you don’t do everything perfectly every day, then you will damage yourself.
How to counteract that “too much control” feeling: Just as with the out of control feeling, it’s helpful to take a step back. Realize that you are doing the best you can in managing your diabetes. Release the expectation to do it “perfectly.” If you are following your doctor’s instructions, you are doing well and being healthy; remember that and remind yourself of it when you start to stress about “doing more.”