Being Black is not a fashion statement.<more> It certainly wasn’t fashionable when Dr. King and the others were fighting for the right to drink from the same fountains, use the same restrooms and sit in the same classrooms as our White brothers and sisters. Lynching wasn’t the “it” thing to do either. Talk to Emmit Till’s mother and see how popular she felt to find her son with a fan and tire wrapped around his neck when they brought him from the bottom of that river. I have never seen a gay or lesbian dragged through the streets on the back of vehicles being driven by White men. I have never seen a gay or lesbian placed upon an auction block with a price tag around their necks. I have never heard of a ship full of gays and lesbians, void of sanitary conditions, with the lesbians in labor and giving birth in the middle of the Atlantic–while others were being thrown overboard. I have only heard of Rosie’s Big Cruise, a party of sorts for same sex lovers, which eventually gained airtime on HBO. Now, I am not going to sit up here and say I haven’t heard of hate crime perpetrated against gays and lesbians, because I have. And it doesn’t make it any more or less right simply because they aren’t Black, but I am suggesting the comparison is utter nonsense. Stop it! There is no comparison to being sprayed down with high powered water hoses simply because your hue is darker than theirs. There is no comparing that. And I am sick and tired of people using the civil rights movement as a means to jump on the bandwagon so to speak. Who wants to emulate that experience? Why would you want to identify with it if you don’t have to? That was such a hellish time for Black people. We didn’t know if we were going to live or die from day to day and to be honest, some of us are STILL watching our backs. Why would you want to use that as a backdrop for your struggle that is based on a choice that you made.
Being Black isn’t an ethnicity that I decided to land on after careful evaluation of all the others. It is who I am. It is what was ascribed to me from birth. It wasn’t a choice. And during my course, I have experienced mockery and belittlement because I don’t bare the lighter shade of it. Neither was becoming female a choice. As I was given my ethnic identification, so was I issued my gender. Now…with technology people have made decisions to alter that which was an initial identification but it doesn’t change who you were born to be and for me, that is a woman.
Yesterday, the first ever federal court case began in San Francisco addressing Proposition 8 in California. You know Prop 8 right? The one that would allow gay and lesbian couples to marry in the state of California–completely annihilating the traditional marriage that we know and understand today. In response, I sent out a request for prayer on my FB page last night because I spotted a woman I knew on television advocating for the 7 million voters who were able to secure a “Yes!” Her name is Dr. LaVerne Tolbert, a former member of the church I once attended. I thought to myself, “man, we have got to lift her up.” Well…to my surprise, another woman who attended church with us decided to comment on my status asking for prayer and likening her decision to become a lesbian to that of the civil rights movement–segregation and the like.
“Although I cannot affirm the “gay is the new black” mantra assumed by otherwise racist non-black activists; I am grievously appalled at black people who have forgotten how many laws were changed to give us the privilege of being even considered human; how many prayer meetings happened that blacks could win the coveted civil marriage and relegate broom-jumping as a novelty; how many courtroom battles and spiritual wars took place to give us political and educational access whether or not we were “light-skinned and had no Negro dialect” ala Reid’s comment about President Obama.” I promised not to get into any banter and I didn’t. I just made it clear where the real battle was.
Here is my response:
I wish I could empathize with you on all fronts of your minority dilemma, for to you, you have been stricken thrice. Unfortunately I can only identify with 2–1) that you are Black and 2) that you are a woman. Those are elements about you that you were not responsible for, made no choice for and are what the civil rights movement was initiated for–the rights of the under served and over looked due to an apparent difference in our who and gender. Now if we were fighting for THAT…I could understand your dissertation but we are fighting for the continuance of “traditional marriage” as God saw fit since the beginning of this age.
Not to get into a biblical banter with you but as Johanna so eloquently ascribed, there is obviously a gross misunderstanding of the Scriptures or contextual misuse because in the Bible I read, it was clear in Genesis when God said, “Let us make man in our image and according to our likeness…so God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created THEM.” He then went on to say to THEM, “Be fruitful and multiply. There seemed to be no ambivalence from God as to who He intended us to be and the marital union that would ultimately bring Him glory – between man and woman. Now…what happened AFTER the fall (Adam and Eve) is a whole other topic because there were things that WE decided were best, which is why we are having this discussion today. The issue of homosexuality and traditional marriage is NOT the new Black…there can never be such. It is the old man. That’s what it is. And until people die to self and understand how to embrace the love of God without trying to manipulate Him for whatever our desires, we will continue to have these erroneous debates.
They have slated that this issue will likely make its way to the Supreme Court and if so, we need to be prepared in prayer and fasting because this kind isn’t going to come out without that.